Choosing between having a career or making time for love is a tough decision, no matter which way you look at it. Some will say that choosing between love or career is simply common knowledge. Definitely it is common knowledge, yet it’s still a tough decision that a lot of people face daily.
There are many factors that affect your choice to be single or chase the corporate dream, yet there are those who’ve discovered the secret to achieving a healthy work life balance in which they manage both career and love life.
Some of us we measure our life success in terms of the life we have at home, how rewarding it is, and what we did to achieve that rewarding life. For others (married people) their identities are measured by their kids, the accomplishments of their kids, and through the love of their spouse.
So, which one do you choose? Love or Career?
For some the choice is clear, and for others it’s not an easy choice. Some people just can’t make the choice in choosing love or career, while the happiest people in modern society have discovered their own mojo towards balancing love life and chasing the career dreams.
Career Chasing
Many of people today choose to focus on their career first and love life second. This is especially true for today’s Y-Generation. The thinking behind this strategy is, while I’m young, single and have the time, I’ll devote my self towards my career by creating a solid foundation while I’m younger in order to serve me well for the future.
There are also those who would much rather have their independence and security than leaving it up to someone else to support them. Their career status and the money associated with it is much more important than any relationship.
Career chasing is most common among celebrities who choose to forgo love life in order to earn all the money possible.And there is nothing wrong with that. It’s a personal choice that they make for them selves.
Equally there are many who build their lives by devoting their young years towards their career. These same people becomes established by creating a sense of security in their life. Eventually once a certain level of security is reached, these career chasers are then more than willing to devote themselves towards love life in hopes of starting a family.
If you’re in this boat, congrats to you. You’re solidifying your future early on.
However, everyone’s life is different and so are the outcomes.
These two solid reads are both similar, yet very different; Love or Career and how one mother left her kids for her career.
Love Chasing
Love is blind as they say, and you’ll never know when cupid will strike. This is true to a degree, yet if you don’t make your self available for love, how can you expect to fall in love?
A wise woman (my mother) once said; “You can’t live off of love”
Now this is true.However, you’re always stronger as a team. If two people truly love each other, it is easier to withstand the curve-balls that life throws at them.Rather than worrying about love or career, lovebirds find ways to make it work.
For those who decide to go the love route and put the career on the back end, there are a few questions to consider:
- Can you forgive yourself for letting go of a career opportunity?
- Can you move forward after turning down a career opportunity?
Some lovers who choose love over career end up remorseful and begin to regret their decision down the road. This is especially true if two people get divorced.
Choosing love over career can be a tough decision. There are many ups, and equally many downs for going one way or the other.
Balancing Love and Career
True love is hard to find.
Love doesn’t come every day, and that’s what makes it so special. Falling in love is easy, while staying in love is a lot of work. It takes two people working together to support their life long goals.
One of the beauties of life is having choice. Fortunately, one doesn’t always have to choose love or career, and instead can choose to have a balance of both. If two people love each other, they can always figure something out that can keep the relationship strong, while helping each other achieve their career goals.
Sometimes balancing is tough, and other times, life simply does not give us a choice to choose between career or love. Other times we just got to suck it up and go with our gut feeling, and that’s why maybe quitting your day job and moving to Europe is the right decision. Krystal is one of the few lucky people who was able to quite her full-time gig and pursue her dream of being her own boss. Fortunately to be a writer today, all you need is a laptop and good writing skills. Location is not important.
Love Wins
If I had to make a choice between love and career, I would gladly give up career achievements and money for a happy family life. The degrees, nominations, awards, tittles, and money don’t bring us contentment. We’ve all heard the old saying “money can’t buy love”.
Sure we all need money to survive, but love is what ultimately gives us that feeling of fulfillment. We can earn all the money in the world, but it’ll never really give us the happiness that a happy smile or a warm hug from our partner can give us.
In our early career stages, we assume that we don’t need anyone to share our lives with. We love our selves too much to care about finding true love. Why would we need love? We have the toys, cars, money, and vibrant social lives with our friends. Year and after year passes, and eventually friends, friends of friends and distant family members start to settle down. So, what happens to the vibrant social life? Take a guess.
One thing that we should never forget is that life always keeps moving forward. We can’t stop it or pause it, yet as the years pass by, we’ll realize that self-love, career, promotions, awards and money will have no true value, because we have no one to share it with.
Love gives us more meaning to our lives, and it completes us when we share it with the right person.
Careers will always be there for taking. No one is going to lean over your death bed and tell you ” You did a good job.”
Readers, what do you choose, love or career?
Eddie
It is never a black and white choice. I married (43 years) the love of my life and I have folowed my passion to have a great career. I achieved financal independence early in life (38 years old) and pursued all the things I love to do. For the last 10 years, I have been teaching.
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I agree that it’s never black and white. It’s a personal choice. Some people enjoy the single life, and take career over love. Others like the family life and value it, so they opt for the love. And very few are successful at balancing both. Do you have kids?
Two children (boy & girl), they are adults now. Very successful in their own right. I emphasized doing some you love to do because you wil be good at it. The money follows.
krantcents recently posted..The 3 E’s of Success
I tried choosing love over career, but it turned out that person didn’t love me enough to support my career goals. So after years of that issue being in the back of my head, we decided to go our separate ways. If you are going to pursue love and keep your career ambitions, be sure it is a partner who is willing to support those dreams.
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