Dating can be hard, especially if you’ve been out of touch with the dating world for awhile. There are so many things to think about, with a lot of issues and events revolving around money.
Dating can be very expensive. Between spending money trying to find the person who you want to date (such as potentially spending money on online dating sites and speed dating), dinners, brunches, movies, flowers, gifts and so on, why not try and save some money by using coupons?
I’m sure some of us will balk at this and say “Oh well I don’t care. If I can save money, then I’m doing it!” However, when it really comes down to it, would you really? What if you might come across as cheap and as if you don’t think the person is worth the full price.
However, using a coupon can also make you come across as good with your money. If you have a really good coupon that you just happened to come across, does it always make you come across as cheap?
This leads to the next question: What coupon value is the minimum that you should be using? If the coupon is only for $1 off, should you even be using it? What if the coupon is for $10 off your total bill?
Now, if you’re saying that you shouldn’t be using coupons on the first date EVER, then when is it okay to do so? The fifth date? Even later? WHEN!? Does the length of dating matter or no?
What if you find a really good Groupon for the place that you just happen to be going to your date next week? Why not buy it? There are so many coupons out there, and nearly ever restaurant has one available for you to use. Some restaurants probably even expect you to use one on your bill. So what should you do?
Here are some possibilities of what you can do:
1. Should you just eat somewhere cheaper?
If you are using a coupon at a restaurant, is there a reason for it? Are you using the coupon because you don’t think the date is worth the money or are you trying to make the person perceive you as having more money than you actually have? Try thinking of the reasons for why you are truly using the coupon.
You can avoid the whole confidence-with-using-coupons problem by just eating at a cheaper restaurant where you do not mind not using coupons at.
2. Ask the waiter or waitress secretly to apply the coupon?
Some people will approach (maybe pretend they are going to the bathroom) their waiter or waitress and ask them to secretly apply the coupon to the bill. I’m sure this happens often. If you can secretly do this because you are afraid of what your date will think, then why not?
However, if you are doing this in secret, then are you ashamed of using coupons? When on a date, shouldn’t you be trying to show the person who you actually are? If your date is ashamed of your coupon usage and you using a coupon is an automatic deal breaker, then maybe your date isn’t worth your time.
3. Openly use the coupon?
If you are not ashamed and are proud of your money saving ways, then why not openly use your coupon in front of your date? I doubt your date will say anything, and if the coupon is a good value coupon, then using it will probably just show them that you are good with your money.
4. No coupon and suck up your loss?
If you are deeply worried about what your date will think, then your last option is to just not use a coupon at all and suck up your loss. The loss is most likely going to be minimal, so why over think something that might only equal approximately $5 or $10? It’s probably not worth your time to think so much about.