Sense of Entitlement

I’ve always known that selfish, rude, arrogant and shallow people exist. When I truly think about it, I have the pleasure to encounter people like this everyday. Just walk into any Starbucks or Indigo and you’ll soon see people like this. Actually scratch that….you don’t need to look outside of your current circle. I’m certain that somewhere within your circle of friends you know a few people that are selfish and shallow. The same shallow and selfish people feel that they’re always entitled.

Despite knowing a shit load of people who feel the sense of entitlement, I’ve yet to realize how they got that way.  Aside from being selfish and shallow, now they feel entitled to this and that. Much of the reason why these poor souls feel entitled is because they developed an appetite for finer things in life  and the sense for having whatever they want, whenever they want it.

Reality that we live in is more realistic (to put it in polite terms). Very few people in today’s society have deep pockets for having whatever they want, whenever they want it. Think Bill Gates for a minute, except in Bill’s case his pockets are so deep that he can’t feel the bottom. Bill works hard for his money, made the wise moves, and most importantly knows the value of starting from the bottom to get to the deep pockets of having whatever he wants, whenever he wants it.

So, the question of the day is this; Where do you think entitlement comes from?

Most people in today’s society have some sense of entitlement simply because they haven’t seen any worst. Food every day, nice shoes, a car, two or three and a home bigger than they actually need. These people have never been hungry. Those who have never been hungry, never wondered where they’d sleep, always had everything at their finger tips or came from a wealthy family -  these people have a skewed sense of entitlement.

Insecure women (and men) who roam malls,  buy $7 coffee’s, read magazines such as People or Celebrity Gossip or watch a lot of TV are feeling the sense of entitlement. They look at a celebrity and say; “Wow, I love those jeans, I’m going to get a paid” and “They do cost $750, but I work hard and deserve them”. Deserve what exactly? We all work hard. If you were to ask 10 people if they work hard, all 10 of them would say that they do. One thing that they fail to realize is that the deepness of the their pockets and the pockets of a celebrity – another example of a skewed sense of entitlement.

When I was growing up my family lived in a two bedroom condo. I shared a room with my brother and we always made it work. Today I own a two bedroom condo by my self, simply because I didn’t want to settle for less. So, do I have a skewed sense of entitlement? Yes, at times I do. I’m not perfect and don’t claim to be.

Let’s look at cars.

Cars were looked at differently when I was growing up. If you drove a BMW, you did well for your self and were considered “fortunate” to drive a nice luxury high end car. Today, you have 19 year olds driving BMWs. Part of it has to do with affordability. BMW has made it extremely easy to enter their luxury market.Second reason is that parents are financing the same BMW vehicles for their kids because little Billy feels entitled to have a BMW, because his friend John has one.

Deep down I think we all feel some sense of entitlement at certain times in our lives. Unfortunately, as our expectations have gone up, our ability to pay for them has been seriously challenged.Fingers are often pointed to the younger generation for feeling entitled, and as much as this being true, youth are not the only problem. Age has very little to do with feeling entitled. Entitlement can be seen right across various age groups, including teens, young adults in their 20s, adults in their dirty thirties and mature adults above the age of 40.

Most of us work hard for our monies. Others are freeloaders who live off of family members and friends. Working hard for your money will give anyone some sense of entitlement. The trick is not to allow it to get your head. Looking to buy that BMW? Fine, there’s nothing wrong with that. Go ahead if you can afford it. Do it for your self and not to keep up with the Joneses, because we all know that keeping up with the Joneses is just smoke and mirrors.

What do you think about people who feel entitled?

Eddie

Comments

  1. I think there are a lot of factors fueling the sense of entitlement. A lot of young people just didn’t have to work hard while growing up. They expected everything to be handed to them on a silver platter. Then add in the jealousy factor. Once they see someone else with luxuries, they end up yearning for that possession too. Society as a whole focuses on consumer possessions and it is constantly thrown in our face everywhere we turn. Another major factor is lack of financial education for ‘generation me’.
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    • This is the truth, ALL of my nephews and nieces are like this, from the 21 year old to the 12 year old’s.
      It is soo bad, that whenever they see me with something, they think my mother bought it for me, and I have to tell them, NO! I bought this with my own money, I continue to tell them, I have been buying my own cloths, games, game system’s, sneaker/boots, and helping my mother and paying my own bills since I was 13 years old.

      I have not had my mother buy my cloths, shoes, or games and computers since I was 13, because she did not have it, even now I am the one that takes care of my mother, but my sisters and their children only come over when they want something, and when my nephews or nieces come over, they leave their juice pouches where ever they want, they spill drinks, they are just do what they want, and I am the one that has to say something, because it is just out of hand, and I do not find it cute at all, and this is not just the 12 year old’s, but also the 21 and 19 year old as well.

      How crazy is this generation when a 21 year old and a 16 year old and are soo spoiled, they think this is how life is, but I tell my family, wait until they enter the real world, and their parent’s are no longer to but them new sneakers, games, cloths every week.

      I feel for the future, because this selfish generation.

  2. I’m sure your sense of entitlement is pretty damn close to the people you criticize when compared to the 600million people in India that don’t even have access to a toilet. They undoubtedly would be harsh on you as well.
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  3. I don’t think it’s entitlement.. for most people (certainly some people are entitlement), because when I think of entitlement I think of somebody being like “I want this 3 bedroom apartment because I deserve it!” without working hard for it… working hard for it is a completely different ballgame and I wouldn’t call that entitlement, because you wouldn’t just expect the 3 bedroom apartment to fall on your lap .. but I think that’s just what I see as entitlement :)
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  4. We have a sense of entitlement because we have been taught to believe it. Everyone from our parents to the schools; movies, magazines and advertisements; even our government has taught us that as Americans we deserve the best. Now we are beginning to learn that it simply isn’t true. We deserve whatever we can earn for ourselves. Our grandparents knew it, now it is time for us to learn it.
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    • Very well said MI. I felt for a moment I was listening to an inaugural speech of acceptance of ______________ ….
      Thanks for sharing. You are absolutely right.

  5. This is a very good, thanks for sharing.

  6. I live in a 2 bedroom condo as well and I use the extra room as an office (^_^) I don’t feel entitled to live here but this was more of an investment decision when I moved in, because 1 room condos aren’t as easy to rent or sell when I move some day. I think the sense of entitlement is learned. It depends on how we were raised.
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    • My thinking behind getting a 2 bedroom condo is like yours – it’s easier to sell. Absolutely would agree with you that entitlement has to do a lot with how we’re brought up.

  7. Hi Eddie, Entitlement comes from indulgence and narcissism. If you were given everything without having to work for it, you may end up with a sense of entitlement. If you have a narcissistic personality disorder, you act and believe entitled. I have little patience for those that feel entitled.
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