What is it about money that drives us crazy? We work hard for it, some of us kill for it, some envy it, some hate having anything to do with it, most of us look down our noses at it, and yet it’s a tool that makes the world go round. Money, as we know it, has it’s positives and negatives. Whether we like it or not, we all have some form of a relationship with money.
Money changes people, and people who strive hard to reach their goals may suddenly find themselves wealthier than they expected. However, most who reach some form of wealth forget that money is a by-product of success, and not the primary objective. This change happens partially because money and the leisure opportunities it brings foster new levels of introspection on both sides.
Money affects us in every possible way. It affects the way we act, think, react and most importantly it affects our mood. When I was in some serious debt, my mood sucked. I was edgy, worrisome, desperate and a nut case. Our moods are strongly tied to our earnings. I know this first hand. When money is coming in steadily from my three income sources, which in my case happen to be my my commercial cleaning business, full-time job and this blog – I’m on a high. Something along the lines of a laughing gas high.
One might argue that money is laughing gas for most of us in its ability to dissipate anxiety and send our spirits soaring. Money speaks to our sense of freedom, and our wish not to be held back by anything or anyone. Although you can travel on a plane in economy class, it’s much more cushy to travel by private jet.
When I was grappling with financial challenges, either as a student and my early twenties, there was not a heck of lot of time or incentive to ask my self if my life was being fulfilled. Lack of money created its own kind of stress. Even though I rarely showed my money problems, I managed to live a decent life in my late teens and early twenties. I enjoyed finer clothing, owned a car and lived life to the fullest.
It’s a proven fact that people think differently about when they have a million dollars in their bank account instead of an overdraft. For the happily married couples the different thought process can be enough to weaken even the strongest bonds. It’s no surprised that the biggest thing couples argue about is money. This money high has it’s on evil side, and if you have all the material things that you once believed would make you happy, and they don’t, you may begin looking elsewhere for your happiness. If you look around, read a few articles, Google a few keywords, you’ll realize that this theory is based on the large number of wealthy divorcees whose marriages appeared stable prior to the material wealth, but came crashing down after their dreams appeared to be fulfilled, but in reality it was smoke in mirrors.
But here’s the odd thing: Although money in itself arouses many emotions, such as admiration, then why do we despise people who posses enormous amounts of money? We suspect them of having come by it unfairly, of somehow not being “worthy” of their own wealth. I’ve caught my self doing this many times. For example, any time I come across the show “The Real Housewives of whatever city”, I’ll admit that the first word that comes to mind is gold-diggers. Call me shallow, but I’m being honest with you. Certainly not all of these women on the popular series are gold-diggers, and that some, very few though, work hard for their money.
What’s really interesting is the paradox to money. Despite our notwithstanding this negative bias on money, we as a society remain fascinated by the wealthy. Just last week, Globe and Mail featured a very interesting article; “Is Vancouver a cultural backwater? Just ask us about Real Housewives” which talks about the hype that this show has created across Canada.Canadians are talking about it everywhere, men and women. This begs an even bigger question; If the Real Housewives have the money, cars, fancy homes and lavish lifestyles, so why are they participating in the show? Obviously they’re missing something.
To concluded, I’ll put things into perspective.Frugality is dull and fatigue seems to set in almost as quickly as you can say recession. And despite a tough economy, struggling housing markets, and high unemployment rates, there doesn’t seem to be a shortage of wealth culture flowing around. The rich will continue to grow their wealth and their playgrounds, while we will stand there enjoying the show in a love-hate way.
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So, what are your thoughts? Can money change you? Do you know of anyone that money has changed?