This post that I’m about to write is a pretty deep one. I suppose for today we can call it the personal deep journey. When someone asks me this question call “Why?”, it completely boggles me. I look back at the direction in life which I took and wonder why did I take this direction? For some aspects of my life I have a clear answer to the “Why?” and for other parts of my life, actually a lot of other parts, I don’t have an answer to why I took this certain direction.
Very few things that I’m doing these days — including the businesses that I own, home that I live in, or this blog that I write for — were a part of any plan.I didn’t plan any of them – honestly! How could they possibly be on a plan? I didn’t imagine them when I was younger. In high school I was solid with “A” in computers and wanted to become a computer nerd. This dream fell apart after the first year of university when I dropped out after realizing that the program wasn’t for me.
My life has always been fast, but in the last few years it’s in overdrive. And I’m not complaining, in fact I thrive in my fast paced lifestyle, where sleep comes in spurts, you’re always on the go and you need to be prepared for whatever. Those who know me in real life can attest to my 60hr work weeks, they often wonder how I do it all. However, recently, as in a few nights ago, someone asked me a question recently that really made me think: “How will you know when you’ve reached success?”
I have an idea of what success is, but than again success has a different meaning for everyone. And if you ask me whether I feel successful, the honest answer is “not yet.” By society’s standards, I am enjoying more success now than at any other time in my life, but I still don’t feel successful. This is what makes the question that was asked quite intriguing. If the ultimate goal is to feel successful, what is the measurement we should be using to achieve that feeling?
Is Money A Measure Of Success?
In modern society, the most common standard measurement of success is money. Our bank accounts indicated that and that’s how so many people measure their success today. Imagine a high end networking event. A room full of executives and entrepreneurs, and the question that gets asked, “How many of you have achieved financial success?”. What do you think the answer would be? I think a majority, probably 7/10 people would answer that they’ve achieved some sort of financial success. And who’s to judge, maybe they did achieve financial success, while some other may be fibbing.
Out of the 70% of “financial successful”, how many do you think actually feel successful? There is a difference between financial success and feeling financially successful. I’m certain the percentage of 70% financially successful people, a mix between executive and entrepreneurs would drop down to less than 25%.
Some associate success with one’s circle of friends. How many friends they have, what they do and their power in today’s modern society. Certainly there is a connection between our friends and who we are. After all one of the best saying goes something like, “Who you’re with, that’s who you are.” But can we really measure our success based simply on the company we keep? We’re not all fortunate as Vincent Chase’s buddies on Entourage because they hang out with someone rich and famous. If I were to ask my self the question, “Do I hang out with anyone rich?” The clear and honest answer is NO. Sometimes the opposite happens. Sometimes spending time with someone who is perceived as “successful” can make us feel less successful. The irony is that regardless of how successful we think someone may be, we actually don’t know whether they truly are. Looks can be deceiving.