Money is one of the biggest topics married couples fight about. Everything from spending to whether they should have separate or joint accounts. Aside from money being a sore for married couples, there are obviously more problems that exist and eventually ending the marriage in a divorce. People rush into marriage, marry to young and marry for the wrong reasons, are just a few more examples on why divorce rates are sky rocketing. Thirty years ago divorce did exist, but it was very uncommon. In today’s society, it’s normal to hear and meet people, who have been divorced once or twice or sadly even more times. One would think that after on divorce they would learn, but sadly that does not seem to be the case.
We all have our opinions on why the divorce rate is so high. People hear about it and is one of the most simple forms of conversation, whether at work, at home, out with friends and with the family. I don’t think a month can go by, without hearing about it somewhere, be it through media or through conversation.
Divorce Rate Sending the Wrong Message
With the divorce rate being so high and a total norm in our society, people often forget to break down the factors on why divorce rate might be so high. Truly, there is no single right answer, but rather multiple answers. Divorce rate keeps climbing each year and it’s sending the wrong message. People are looking at divorce as a way out. It’s quick and easy, but not cheap for sure. An abnormally high divorce rate is never a good thing for the society. You have to wonder, what kind of message is being sent to the kids of those divorced parents? Not a good one, in my opinion. Future generations will have huge issues, unless new laws are put into place.
Through various studies , it is said that children of a divorce often suffer from stress, emotional depression and various forms of anxiety. Reason being, is that the children were left exposed, torn apart and not enough life guidance given to them. Two different households, two different rules. One parent may be more lenient, as opposed to the other. The views are also different, sending mixed messages through the childhood and into teen years.
Divorce is a more viable and acceptable option in western society, living single is a more viable and acceptable option in western society, and the expectation of what a marriage offers is different than in non-Western societies. In most “traditional” societies: the wife’s role is to cope with whatever the marriage brings and make it work. That’s her primary job, and her social expectation. Rarely can she have any priorities above it, nor does she have a realistic option to divorce. There’s essentially no legitimate cause. In US & Canada, women are often expected to have a career and create a double household income alongside their partner. Careers also become a sore point and cause of a lot of heat, eventually one or maybe both partners opting to rather focus their careers, as opposed to focusing on marriage.
Thought of “Grass is Greener on the Other Side”
Internet has made it that much easier to meet people. How often do you hear, that Facebook has become one of the leading social media streams responsible for divorce. Many partners who are actually married or already living with someone else, are just wanting to get another “Better” option. They try to lined up before leaving their current partner. Sadly, this is only the case of the honey-moon phase as I call it. Once the “honey-moon” phase passes, grass is never greener on the other side, but by then it’s too late to fix another wrecked home. You would be surprised on how many people wish they didn’t divorce or fully admit to thinking that grass was greener on the other side.
In conclusion, I will leave you with some stats that I’ve gathered on the internet about divorce. The stats are a very broad view, but look fairly right, at least for the high divorce rate in Canada.
List of reasons to divorce:
85% lack of commitment
43% married too young
42% no premarital preparation
41% financial problems
30% domestic violence
29% lack of family support
21% religious differences